My Deepest Needs
Are Not Met...
by Kathy
Corwin
"Dear
Corwins:
Last night I watched your session on spiritual intimacy and it open
up my deepest need and desire. I have being trying to live my life
with the little I have (the love of my children). When I listen
to your program it just makes it more difficult for me to ignore
these things and that there is more to life than just "living",
surviving.
I have been married for over thirteen years and I am blessed
with two children (6 & 4). My husband is a good man. He is
kind. He helps around the house. He helps with the children. He
takes care of the bills... he is a good man, but my deepest needs
are not met. My need for companionship. My need of belonging.
He is a terrible communicator; I cannot engage in any kind of
conversation with him.
This thing is driving me crazy. To make matters worse, every
so often, I have met a man (pastor or church leader) endowed with
excellent communication skills that I feel comfortable with and
I have to walk away from him because of the danger it entails.
I feel so desperately lonely that I cannot begin to explain. I
have prayed about the matter. I have cried before the Lord. I
have spilled my heart out to God and it seems as if he does not
care. I need somebody to help me. I am afraid of what might happen
if my marital situation does not change. I am only 36 yrs.
PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME.
I Am Afraid "
Dear I Am Afraid,
You will have to teach your husband how
to communicate! Most men don't have a clue and if they did not learn
to communicate from their home of origin, then they won't communicate
in marriage either. You have to be open and honest, just like you
were to me. Tell him exactly what you think and feel in your heart
all the time. Turn off the T.V. and set aside time to communicate
(with no kids around).
I would highly recommend that you begin with our "Love Takes
Time" Series 1 and 2 videos from "Marriage
Matters" and the two of you sit down together once a
week and watch one or two programs and discuss the assignments
at the
end. You will be amazed how much he (both of you) can learn from
watching a husband and wife interact and communicate, while
giving
important marriage tools. Our resources are sold at cost and so
the price is very good right now. Please see the attachment
below
of the resources. Also you can order them on our web site with
your credit card - lovetakestime.com/materials.html.
If your husband refuses to cooperate and you need more help, contact
a Christian professional counselor for private counseling together.
You don't have to be desperate when there is plenty of help available.
Don't wait until it's too late for your marriage and you fall for
some other guy who does communicate. Just remember to be open and
honest in your communication to him, don't be afraid to tell him
the same things you shared with me. Always give plenty of appreciation
prior to sharing your frustrations.
Remember you must teach your husband how to communicate by your
example of love and honesty. Let me know how it goes after you have
watched all our programs together.
May God bless your marriage.
Kathy Corwin
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Click on the following link for access to the Love Takes Time Series
1 & 2 videos from Marriage Matters, as well as other resources:
lovetakestime.com/materials.html
Click on this link to see streaming
video excerpts from Marriage Matters.
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